You NEED to change the way you talk to people
We all want to connect. We all have stories to tell.
We all, no matter how different we are, share some common fears, hopes and aspirations. And sometimes, we need a little nudge to cut through the meaningless small talk we have each day and begin to show our authentic selves and learn about others. Sounds intriguing?Here's where BIG TALK comes in
We all know what small talk is. But I bet you probably have never heard about BIG TALK. It's something I came across by accident, after I watched a TED talk by Kalina, who as a student, decided she was fed up with small talk and wanted to "actually have deeper, more meaningful conversations with people" she meets or the people that are already dear to her.The idea is simple: whenever, you want to really connect with people (even with strangers), you "skip the small talk, and cut right to the big talk by asking deeper questions instead". Questions like:
1. What do
you spend too much time doing? What don’t you spend enough time doing?
2. Who do
you need to get in touch with because it’s been too long?
3. What is
something new you recently tried and enjoyed?
4. What
makes you feel most alive?
5. What
advice would you offer to yourself five years ago? One year ago? Today?
6. What
holds you back from doing the things you really want to do?
7. What do
you fear?
8. What are
you proud of?
9. What is
something you know you do differently than most people?
10. What is
your next great adventure?
11. What’s
one thing that could happen today that would make it great?
12. What
does home mean to you?
13. What do
you want to do before you die?
14. How do
you show your love?
Or even ask the other person to finish statements like "Before I die I want to...". You just force people talk about the most important things in life.
I hope this post finds you well and you will try engaging in BIG TALK in your own life. Just try it. Try it with someone you trust. Or make it into a conscious effort to approach people you do not know that well. You can never know where this might lead. I tried it and it was the most fulfilling experience. Ever.
Below, I've added the TED talk for you to get a better idea how this all started 😉, and I couldn't recommend more to watch the original video either: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=deScHJGoVc8
Feel free to start the BIG TALK with us too!
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